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What is the Difference Between a Healthy or Toxic Relationship?

What is the Difference Between a Healthy or Toxic Relationship?

To become authentic love, the early stages of romance require a fundamental condition beyond that strong sexual attraction: choice. To transform ‘erotic love’ or lust into a mature, authentic love, we’re required to choose to love from the centre of our being (be it the essence, spiritual self or soul, whatever resonates most with you). We must decide to see, sense, feel and connect with the other person through their own essence in a conscious and mindful movement. In that space, as Eric Fromm explains, we are all the same. And from this principle therefore, it doesn’t matter who we love because love should be a conscious commitment, an honest choice and a mindful action. I’d also add that authentic love begins as a desire and perseveres because of choice.

The Empath: The Opposite of Narcisissm

The Empath: The Opposite of Narcisissm

There are several common traits unifying empathic people, one of which is the commonly associated personality trait, empathy. Empathy is defined as a sign of emotional intelligence and emotional ability to understand other people’s feelings as if they were one’s own. Empathy is the act of putting ourselves in other people’s shoes and reaching our hearts out to others.

Is Narcissism the Same as Egocentrism?

Is Narcissism the Same as Egocentrism?

While the concept of narcissism dates back thousands of years, narcissistic personality disorder only became recognised as a mental illness within the last 2 decades. But how did narcissism come to be?

ANGER: The Misunderstood Emotion

ANGER: The Misunderstood Emotion

“One of these dimensions in particular, is one that we tend to forget or prefer not to deal with. Looking into it might lead us to recognise something about ourselves that we might have preferred not to see, so we don’t look into it. I’m talking about the emotional dimension, which refers to our feelings, empathy, moods and creativity.”

Parenting Skills I: Becoming a 'Different' Parent

Parenting Skills I: Becoming a 'Different' Parent

To become parents, or ‘different’ parents, we don’t actually need to do much, but we are required to be. When the focus shifts to being rather than doing, you automatically become a more authentic role model for your own children.

How Boundaries (or lack thereof) Directly Affect Your Health

How Boundaries (or lack thereof) Directly Affect Your Health

“It wasn’t until I started becoming aware of some of my repetitive sabotaging behaviours that my health and wellbeing started becoming less of a burden. This was the beginning of my deeper understanding of the link between mind and body.”

The Difference Between Counselling & Coaching

The Difference Between Counselling & Coaching

How do you know whether Coaching or Counselling is better suited for you? What are the myths surrounding the two that you need to know about?

Authentic Love vs. Inauthentic Love

Authentic Love vs. Inauthentic Love

98% of the Earth’s population is not self-actualised, according to Abraham Maslow. They therefore, act out from a space of unconditional or ‘inauthentic love’ for themselves and others. I believe that, no matter how much self-empowerment work I put myself through, becoming a self-actualised or authentic human being is a never ending process.

I Could Be Happy But...

I Could Be Happy But...

How many of you can relate to this belief system that we mustn’t be happy unless it’s because we’re making someone else happy?

How to Fix Broken Trust in a Relationship

How to Fix Broken Trust in a Relationship

TRUST: the bedrock of any relationship

Trust is the cornerstone of a healthy and deeply satisfying relationship. In a trusting relationship, partners, friends or colleagues are honest with each other. 

Self-Awareness: A Lifetime Adventure

Self-Awareness: A Lifetime Adventure

A Journey, Not a Quick Fix: Developing Self-Awareness is not a straightforward journey, rather one filled with wrong turns, kinked and forever veering in unknown directions. It's a journey for a life time and of a life time, a magical adventure to be enjoyed with mature eyes and child-like curiosity. 

Visions of a 25 Year Journey

Visions of a 25 Year Journey

When Stella was born, I promised never to be the kind of mother my own had been with me. I wanted to break the chain. How many of us want the same for ourselves and our children? To be and do better than our parents did? After only one year, I found myself straying from my promise. 

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