co-dependency

What is the Difference Between a Healthy or Toxic Relationship?

What is the Difference Between a Healthy or Toxic Relationship?

To become authentic love, the early stages of romance require a fundamental condition beyond that strong sexual attraction: choice. To transform ‘erotic love’ or lust into a mature, authentic love, we’re required to choose to love from the centre of our being (be it the essence, spiritual self or soul, whatever resonates most with you). We must decide to see, sense, feel and connect with the other person through their own essence in a conscious and mindful movement. In that space, as Eric Fromm explains, we are all the same. And from this principle therefore, it doesn’t matter who we love because love should be a conscious commitment, an honest choice and a mindful action. I’d also add that authentic love begins as a desire and perseveres because of choice.

Divorce, an Act of Authenticity or Escapism?

Divorce, an Act of Authenticity or Escapism?

There was a time when married couples would stay together for life. Despite a lack of happiness in the relationship, often rooted in unhealthy co-dependency between two partners, marriage wasn’t easily dissolved. People would choose to stay ‘glued’ together in the name of a commitment they made many years before. Often because it was financially more comfortable. Other times because they lacked the courage to take a leap of faith and enter the unknown. And more times than not, because they were used to conforming to the expectations of a hypocritical society.

An Intro to the Mother-Daughter Relationship

An Intro to the Mother-Daughter Relationship

In this particular article, as I talk about mother-daughter relationships, I write addressing the group of women whose painful childhood relationships and experiences with their mothers have gone on to warp their adulthood in ways they may not recognise.

The Stages of Love

The Stages of Love

What happens when we move passed the ‘honeymoon phase’ of a relationship, often during the first year of living together. 

How to Fix Broken Trust in a Relationship

How to Fix Broken Trust in a Relationship

TRUST: the bedrock of any relationship

Trust is the cornerstone of a healthy and deeply satisfying relationship. In a trusting relationship, partners, friends or colleagues are honest with each other. 

Vindictiveness: A Holiday Special

Vindictiveness: A Holiday Special

We can be true to ourselves and still do our best to act responsibly by choosing not to hurt others and ourselves by surrendering power to our vindictive side, which is a part of our humanness. We do this by nurturing and remaining faithful and connected to our light.

Adult Love and Childish Love

Adult Love and Childish Love

Loving and being Loved is a basic necessity in life. There are many ways to and be loved but I believe if you strip all these ways bare (be it romantic, friends, family etc), you will find that it comes down to two main kinds of love: 'Adult' love and 'Childish' love.

Real Love: A Mature Adult in a Mature Relationship

Real Love: A Mature Adult in a Mature Relationship

How do we define what a 'mature adult' in a mature relationship is?


What Does 'Giving & Receiving' Mean In A Couple?

Observing my own marriage and listening to the stories of many in my profession, I came to realise that the major cause for marriages to breakdown is the lack of balance between ‘giving‘ and ‘ receiving’.

The Power of the Heart - Part 2

The Power of the Heart - Part 2

“What is it that causes our heart to close towards people who stimulate a part of us we are not ready to face?” 

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